Posts from the “Roar” Category

Between Selfie & Self-Flagellation

Posted on March 5, 2014

When I was in high school I would pour through the pages of Elle magazine, carefully tearing out the images that spoke to me to tape on my wall. I created a collage that was equal parts aspiration and self-flagellation. I was not those women, but I might be able to be like those women. It was the era of the supermodel and I gravitated to the women who were boldly described as breaking from the mold of typical model. They were big and athletic. Yet in all my searching I never found a report of a model weighing what I did—big was crossing the 115lb threshold. Athletic was having a curve behind their shin, not shoulders that invited, “Wow, you must be a swimmer” comments.…

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10 Pick-me-ups That Cost Nothing

Posted on February 26, 2014

Raising three kids I get how easily one can fall into a couple of predictable traps: Rewarding good behavior with sweets. Rewarding good behavior with purchase. Depriving ourselves of time or forgiveness. When the girls perform well on an assignment at school, it comes home with a pack of Smarties taped to it. When they finish their reading assignments they get a coupon for Pizza Hut. Finley says, “If I’m good can I get a…” I get so frustrated, but do I do the same thing? Do we go out to dinner to break from routine? Pick up a little this or that at the check out? You bet. I began to wonder, do I do this with myself? Can I curb the behavior…

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Self, Easy

Posted on January 28, 2014

I don’t think that getting older is hard; I think that what’s hard is that as each year passes the inevitability of pain gets closer. Incremental change happens in life no matter what I do to prevent it—wrinkles, thrown-out backs, an inability to listen to 18 year olds sing about heartbreak and life without rolling my eyes. All of these things add up and I realize that I know people with terminal illnesses, friends who’ve buried children, and romantics who no longer wear a ring on their left hand. These are the things that begin to weigh on my face, not the wrinkles. It’s an intimacy with heartache and the idea that unfair is really just a moment, an excruciating, unwelcome, out-of-your-countrol moment. Unfair is a beginning and…

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#SFBatkid & Faith

Posted on November 15, 2013

I’ve been watching as so many of the people I follow on Facebook and Twitter have gotten swept up in the excitement and magic of Make-A-Wish making Gotham dreams come true in San Francisco. This kid and this city, and throngs of people, offices, and companies have rallied to help make a dream come true for all of us to see. Who hasn’t watched a movie unfold or followed a story and remembered a time when you wanted your face to appear on the jumbotron at a game, or you wanted your name called and the Homecoming crown put on your head? Maybe you wanted your parents to not get divorced or for your brother not to die. We’ve all made wishes. As we get older…

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Yes, you.

Posted on September 12, 2013

Believing in your dreams is not reserved for kids, in fact one of the greatest things we can do for our kids is show that dreaming lasts forever. Are yours gathering dust? Special thanks to: Alexandra, for making my head swing at handwriting, which takes me back to my childhood when my mom did the lettering for calligraphy books in Eugene, Oregon. Aidan, who so generously shares her pursuit of dreams and happiness. Old Navy, for having this flippy, fun shirt that has reminded me to dream in the most impossibly soft and comfortable way!

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